tholsey

Student Affairs Advocate

The Power of Mistakes!

I can’t speak for anyone else but I can honestly say my life has been full of mistakes.  Oh I’m sure I could blame it on a fatherless upbringing, growing up in a single parent household with little attention or affection, not quite fitting into any one clique or circle throughout my life, or maybe I can blame it on not really being exposed to much as a child……my mother worked and slept my whole childhood, therefore, there wasn’t many opportunities to get out, explore, and form my on opinion on things outside of what my mother and family believed.  No, I wont blame my mistakes on these things at all. The truth is, I have learned more through my mistakes and flaws than anything I’ve ever accomplished.

I can say that as a teenager nearing 18 year old, I did begin to rebel and form my own opinions about life and people…..and in college I totally did things my own way.  I think mistakes are needed in life. Now I’m not talking about harmful mistakes, or mistakes that threaten others, nor am I talking about mistakes that will put you behind bars for a very long time.  Truth is I have never been one to step outside of the legal system or break laws…..I have always enjoyed my freedom way too much.

However, I have made many mistakes in life…..the kind of mistakes that you look back on and say, if I hadn’t done that then I wouldn’t be in this predicament now.  I have made mistakes that sometimes make me wonder, am I where I am in life because of these mistakes, or is there a higher power operating here?  Now as one that has believed in Jesus Christ since 2001, I do know that God is aware of every action or decision we will make before we are formed in our mother’s womb, and yet these mistakes still occur.  The truth is, I am where I am in life because of my decisions……however, have I made a mistake so bad that I can’t rebound from it, and do I serve a God that is so mighty that He can’t use me in spite of  failures and poor choices, the answer is NO!  I can rebound from my mistakes and I serve a God that is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that I can ask or think(Ephesians 3:20). 

Now I can say this, we must learn from our mistakes and it’s important not to repeat them, but first we must admit that we make them and place no blame on our environment, upbringing, or circumstances.  There are far too many people who come from poverty, and are now rich or successful, people who were abused and molested (Tyler Perry) and are now very successful, and people who have had to endure many obstacles in life, but did not make a decision/mistake that was so bad that they couldn’t rebound from it.

The fact of the matter is, as long as you are alive you can change your life……and nothing you’ve done can make God love you any less, for God knows your heart. 1 John 3:20 (NLT) “…even if our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything.”

At this stage in my life, I am working past my mistakes while trying my hardest not to make the same one’s, for I have seen the consequences that lurk behind making the same mistakes over and over.  My mistakes have matured me and in essence have helped me to become a man, for a man is not a man because he turns 18, he is a man when he begins to accept responsibility for his actions, can lead by example, can walk with integrity, loves himself and others, embraces what’s right about him, and works hard to fix what’s wrong about him, a man is not scared to grow, to learn, and to sacrifice, and lastly he does not look at discipline as a negative thing, but as a necessary thing….because without discipline and the ability to say “NO” when certain circumstances and situations go against our morals, values, and beliefs…..then that man will ultimately end up enduring many hardships that may not always have a good outcome.

Therefore, I thank God for my mistakes and I truly believe my latter days will be better than my past.  No matter what I’ve done in life, I know and feel that I can never give up on my goals, passions, and dreams. We don’t always make it to our destination at the same time…..but what matters is that we make it there period.

Embrace your mistakes, learn from them, and don’t duplicate them.

God bless you!

Written by: Ty Holsey

 

 

 

 

 

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